U.S. couple helps Afghans escape, build life in rural America

Ihsanullah Patan, left, a horticulturist and refugee from Afghanistan, sits for a portrait with Caroline Clarin, right, whom he worked with in Afghanistan, and her wife, Sheril Raymond, at his home in Fergus Falls, Minn., Friday, Oct. 29, 2021. A U.S. Department of Agriculture adviser in Afghanistan, Clarin along with her wife have been using their own time and money to get Afghans who worked for her program out of the country. Those who have started their life in the remote town of Fergus Falls near the North Dakota border say they consider them family. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Ihsanullah Patan, left, a horticulturist and refugee from Afghanistan, sits for a portrait with Caroline Clarin, right, whom he worked with in Afghanistan, and her wife, Sheril Raymond, at his home in Fergus Falls, Minn., Friday, Oct. 29, 2021. A U.S. Department of Agriculture adviser in Afghanistan, Clarin along with her wife have been using their own time and money to get Afghans who worked for her program out of the country. Those who have started their life in the remote town of Fergus Falls near the North Dakota border say they consider them family. (AP Photo/David Goldman)

FERGUS FALLS, Minnesota -- The U.S. soldiers called them "Caroline's guys." They transformed farms in a war zone - risking their lives for the program she built, sharing her belief that something as simple as apple trees could change the world.

In the process, the 12 agricultural specialists, all traditional Afghan men, formed a deep, unexpected bond with their boss, an American woman who worked as a U.S. Department of Agriculture adviser in the region for two years.

Now Caroline Clarin is trying to save them one by one, doing it all from the 1910 Minnesota farmhouse she shares with her wife, drawing from retirement funds to help a group of men who share her love of farming. She's driven by fear her team will be killed, though the Taliban have promised not to target Afghans who helped the U.S..

Clarin, 55, has helped get five of her former employees and their families into the U.S. since 2017, while her wife has helped them rebuild their lives in America.

Since U.S. forces withdrew, more than 70,000 Afghans have come to the United States and thousands are languishing at U.S. military bases as resettlement agencies struggle to keep up.

The most recent of Clarin's friends to escape was Ihsanullah Patan, a horticulturist who waited seven years for a special immigrant visa. After he texted her that two of his close friends had just been killed, Clarin withdrew $6,000 from a retirement fund to get him and his family on a commercial flight to Minnesota before the Taliban took control of the country this summer.

When Clarin picked them up at the airport in Minneapolis at midnight for the three-hour drive back to Fergus Falls, she was consumed with joy.

"It was like my son came home," she said.

Patan considers Clarin and her wife family. His three sons and daughter call them their "aunties."

In fact, he's decided to live in nearby Fergus Falls, a town of 14,000, instead of moving to a larger city with an Afghan transplant community.

Surrounded by farmland stretching to the North Dakota border, the town's skyline is dominated by grain elevators and the spires of Bethlehem Lutheran Church, a reflection of the region's Scandinavian roots.

The only other Afghan family in town is his cousin's. Sami Massoodi, who has a degree in livestock management, also worked for Clarin's team in Afghanistan and arrived in 2017. He and his family lived on their farm before they got established in Fergus Falls.

"In Fergus Falls, they have really good people, really friendly people," Patan said as he drives his minivan down the tree-lined streets to pick up his 5-year-old daughter at a Head Start program.

Only months after they arrived, the Patan family already feels at home in large part because of Clarin's wife, Sheril Raymond.

She helped enroll their kids in school, find a dentist for 9-year-old Sala's infected tooth, and sign Patan up for car insurance, something that was new for the 35-year-old.

She lined up English classes and state and federal services for new immigrants. Clarin has tracked down a sheep on craigslist for Eid, while Raymond watched YouTube videos on how to slaughter livestock according to halal principles, since the closest halal butcher is an hour away in Fargo, North Dakota.

Patan longs for his homeland, the family festivities. His wife makes their traditional dishes still, like Bolani Afghani, a fried, vegetable-filled flatbread that Clarin enjoyed with him in Afghanistan.

Over there, Patan and her team were the ones helping her feel at home.

It was the longest she and Raymond had been apart since they started dating in 1988. Two years after Clarin returned, they married in August 2013 when same-sex marriage became legal in Minnesota.

Homosexuality is still widely seen as taboo and indecent in Afghanistan, where same-sex relations are illegal. Yet, none of the Afghan families have asked about their marriage or expressed judgment, the couple said.

"We have a lot of respect for them," Patan said.

Both Clarin and Patan speak passionately about farming, describing in detail how to get a good apple crop and ward off disease.

Clarin's program trained about 5,000 farmers in Paktika from 2009 to 2011. They provided growers hoop-houses, apple trees, pruning equipment and small grants. They taught farmers tangible solutions, including using buckets with drip lines to irrigate gardens and conserve water.

Patan misses his career back in Afghanistan. Most U.S. employers do not recognize degrees from Afghan universities so he plans to return to school to earn a U.S. degree. For now, he is training to be a commercial truck driver.

He wants a local truck route to stay close to home, but it will still be challenging for his family. His wife, Sediqa, does not speak English, nor does she know how to read or write or drive.

Everything is new for their children, too. Patan's sons befriended a neighbor boy and jumped for the first time on a trampoline. They look forward to the weekends with their "aunties" at the farm.

Two other Afghan families Clarin helped chose to settle in Austin, Texas, and San Diego, partly because in both places there are mosques, halal butcher shops and established Afghan communities. None of that exists in Fergus Falls.

But Patan knows there are drawbacks to cities, and he hopes more of his former colleagues might choose to stay in Minnesota.

"I hope that one day they can also come here and we will make a big Afghan kind-of-family over here," he said. "All of them want to come here to Fergus."

Pigs roam the farm of Caroline Clarin, left, and her wife, Sheril Raymond, as they pause along the water's edge for a photo in Dalton, Minn., Tuesday, Oct. 26, 2021. Clarin has helped get five of her former employees and their families in Afghanistan into the U.S. since 2017, while her wife has helped them rebuild their lives in America. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Pigs roam the farm of Caroline Clarin, left, and her wife, Sheril Raymond, as they pause along the water's edge for a photo in Dalton, Minn., Tuesday, Oct. 26, 2021. Clarin has helped get five of her former employees and their families in Afghanistan into the U.S. since 2017, while her wife has helped them rebuild their lives in America. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Caroline Clarin, right, talks with her wife, Sheril Raymond, as their dog, Iorek, looks out the window at their home in Dalton, Minn., Tuesday, Oct. 26, 2021. Raymond worries more than Clarin about money they've spent to bring families over from Afghanistan, and she finds the government fee of $575 per application for humanitarian parole outrageous. But she also acknowledges they cannot step back now. "When we bring in a family, they become our family," she said. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Caroline Clarin, right, talks with her wife, Sheril Raymond, as their dog, Iorek, looks out the window at their home in Dalton, Minn., Tuesday, Oct. 26, 2021. Raymond worries more than Clarin about money they've spent to bring families over from Afghanistan, and she finds the government fee of $575 per application for humanitarian parole outrageous. But she also acknowledges they cannot step back now. "When we bring in a family, they become our family," she said. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
The setting sun illuminates a barn near the home of Caroline Clarin and Sheril Raymond in Dalton, Minn., Friday, Oct. 29, 2021. Surrounded by farmland stretching to the North Dakota border, the landscape is dominated by barns, grain elevators and the spires of a Bethlehem Lutheran Church, a reflection of the region's Scandinavian roots. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
The setting sun illuminates a barn near the home of Caroline Clarin and Sheril Raymond in Dalton, Minn., Friday, Oct. 29, 2021. Surrounded by farmland stretching to the North Dakota border, the landscape is dominated by barns, grain elevators and the spires of a Bethlehem Lutheran Church, a reflection of the region's Scandinavian roots. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Caroline Clarin, right, and her wife, Sheril Raymond, prepare dinner at their home in Dalton, Minn., Thursday, Oct. 28, 2021. So far, the couple has spent just under $10,000 since May bringing over families from Afghanistan. Raymond keeps the tally in a notebook. "It does make me a little nervous because we've lived on the edge for so long," said Raymond, who sews her dresses, knits hats, and bakes bread. "So I work another year before retiring," Clarin, 55, answers with a shrug. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Caroline Clarin, right, and her wife, Sheril Raymond, prepare dinner at their home in Dalton, Minn., Thursday, Oct. 28, 2021. So far, the couple has spent just under $10,000 since May bringing over families from Afghanistan. Raymond keeps the tally in a notebook. "It does make me a little nervous because we've lived on the edge for so long," said Raymond, who sews her dresses, knits hats, and bakes bread. "So I work another year before retiring," Clarin, 55, answers with a shrug. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Sheril Raymond, left, and her wife, Caroline Clarin, look out from their front door in Dalton, Minn., Thursday, Oct. 28, 2021. When Clarin was in Afghanistan, it was the longest she and Raymond had been apart since they started dating in 1988. Raymond, who cares for the chickens, pigs and other animals on their farm, would do video calls often, staying online even after Clarin had fallen asleep. Two years after Clarin returned, they married in August 2013 when same-sex marriage became legal in Minnesota. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Sheril Raymond, left, and her wife, Caroline Clarin, look out from their front door in Dalton, Minn., Thursday, Oct. 28, 2021. When Clarin was in Afghanistan, it was the longest she and Raymond had been apart since they started dating in 1988. Raymond, who cares for the chickens, pigs and other animals on their farm, would do video calls often, staying online even after Clarin had fallen asleep. Two years after Clarin returned, they married in August 2013 when same-sex marriage became legal in Minnesota. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Ali Patan, 7, right, shovels dirt while looking for worms with his brothers, Sala, 9, left, and Maiwan, 12, center, and cousins, Laiba, 7, in dress, and her brother, Haiwad, 9, rear right, while visiting the farm of Caroline Clarin in Dalton, Minn., Saturday, Oct. 30, 2021. "They are kinda free," Ihsanullah Patan, a horticulturist and refugee from Afghanistan, says of his kids now, recalling how bomb blasts in Kabul caused them to miss school more than once. They still carry the trauma. When fireworks were shot off for Fourth of July this summer, Patan called his cousin in a panic and asked if the town was being bombed. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Ali Patan, 7, right, shovels dirt while looking for worms with his brothers, Sala, 9, left, and Maiwan, 12, center, and cousins, Laiba, 7, in dress, and her brother, Haiwad, 9, rear right, while visiting the farm of Caroline Clarin in Dalton, Minn., Saturday, Oct. 30, 2021. "They are kinda free," Ihsanullah Patan, a horticulturist and refugee from Afghanistan, says of his kids now, recalling how bomb blasts in Kabul caused them to miss school more than once. They still carry the trauma. When fireworks were shot off for Fourth of July this summer, Patan called his cousin in a panic and asked if the town was being bombed. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Peppers sit on the dining table of Caroline Clarin at her farm in Dalton, Minn., after she picked them from a garden she in part set up to grow vegetables for Afghan families she's helped relocate locally, Thursday, Oct. 28, 2021. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Peppers sit on the dining table of Caroline Clarin at her farm in Dalton, Minn., after she picked them from a garden she in part set up to grow vegetables for Afghan families she's helped relocate locally, Thursday, Oct. 28, 2021. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
A girl plays on a giant otter sculpture in Fergus Falls, Minn., Friday, Oct. 29, 2021. It is a place where neighbors pay unannounced visits to say "hi" and people greet the postmaster by name. It is also staunchly Republican. Fergus Falls is the county seat of Otter Tail County, which voted twice for former President Donald Trump. But people in town say friendships and family take precedence over political views. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
A girl plays on a giant otter sculpture in Fergus Falls, Minn., Friday, Oct. 29, 2021. It is a place where neighbors pay unannounced visits to say "hi" and people greet the postmaster by name. It is also staunchly Republican. Fergus Falls is the county seat of Otter Tail County, which voted twice for former President Donald Trump. But people in town say friendships and family take precedence over political views. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Ihsanullah Patan, a horticulturist and refugee from Afghanistan, puts the hood up for his daughter, Sujda, 5, after picking her up from daycare in Fergus Falls, Minn., Wednesday, Oct. 27, 2021. Only months after they arrived, the Patan family already feels at home. "In Fergus Falls, they have really good people, really friendly people," Patan said as he drove his minivan down the tree-lined streets. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
Ihsanullah Patan, a horticulturist and refugee from Afghanistan, puts the hood up for his daughter, Sujda, 5, after picking her up from daycare in Fergus Falls, Minn., Wednesday, Oct. 27, 2021. Only months after they arrived, the Patan family already feels at home. "In Fergus Falls, they have really good people, really friendly people," Patan said as he drove his minivan down the tree-lined streets. (AP Photo/David Goldman)

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